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Dear Diary – October 2nd
People love a good heart-warming yarn, and I see the appeal. Assessing humanity by its more common tendencies is uncomfortable and self-implicating. But if we can't call out the problem we can't fix it. We can't raise our children with as much focus on grace and empathy as we put on competition and advancement.
Dear Diary – September 24th
While it is meant to protect people, I cannot remember the last time I saw the law used to pull down power on behalf of the powerless. I am convinced more and more that it is not meant for that.
Back at Work During the George Floyd Protests
Perhaps the most difficult part of this week, on a personal level, was being “back at the office.” “Distracted” isn’t quite the word. It was more a partitioning of my psyche into two equally necessary, asymmetrically important, and overlapping halves.
The Prestige
I started writing this weeks ago, intending to share thoughts on why we make odd decisions for the sake of "prestige," and what that does to us. I am the answer to my own questions. And I'm supposed to be one of the rational ones.
In Defense Of 2017…

It is our nature, generally, to be really bad at measuring progress over time.

We wince a bit when uncles and aunts tell us how much we’ve grown, until we go back to our bedroom doorframe every birthday morning, and notch another pencil mark a few inches above last year’s mark.… Read the rest

A Sense Of Magnitude | I’m Sorry

In college, dudes spent a lot of time talking about how many women they’d slept with.

It was common. Standard, even.

It’d be a bunch of guys sitting around in someone’s apartment, pre or post-club, talking about how bad some girl was, and how she was up on them, and how she wanted it bad.… Read the rest

The Ordinary Opinion

I’ve wanted to write for a long time, the same way people start every year wanting to “get in shape.” I talk about it a lot, to anyone who’ll listen to me. I bookmark blogs. I follow writers on Instagram. I start things, sentences, and then delete them.… Read the rest